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LOOKING FOR THE STRENGTHS AND POTENTIAL

People have a variety of treasures within themselves. These treasures include limitless strengths, talents, gifts and abilities. In my experience, most people don’t even truly know who they are. As a result, they don’t even know they have inherent treasures let alone how to use them or recognize them in others.

We need to cultivate a way of life that draws out these treasures and potential from the hearts of people. Calling out the greatness in others will also call out your own! Learn to communicate like this and watch how it changes your life.

Commit to speaking only that which builds and brings life. This will produce two very powerful outcomes:
1. It changes the way we see people and situations.
2. It changes the way we treat/respond to people and situations.

Let me explain how this powerful truth works. I’ll use my own life as an example. I truly have committed to exclusively think and speak edifying words. This is to say that when I interact with people, I intentionally look for the treasure within them.

I’ll be honest… it isn’t always easy to do this especially when I encounter hostile people. However hostility could signify that someone feels broken inside. That they live their life in such an unhealthy way that their choices would affect or even hurt me personally. When this happens, it takes eyes of love to be able to see past the dirt, and into their destiny. Past their problems and into their potential.

I intentionally search for the strengths, gifts and talents in people. Then I show them what I’ve found so that they can rise up to a new level. At first this required me to be very calculating. But now my mind automatically goes searching for those qualities. I am no longer focused on people’s problems and issues. I instinctively search for their treasure and potential.

Can you see the possible benefit of this for my life and others? Wow! It’s huge! I no longer need to react to problems because I have conditioned myself to see potential… I am now solution-oriented!

Speak Life, to Enrich your own Life

Here are some guidelines to help teach you how to use powerful words to create more abundance in your own life as well as others’. When you speak, let your words be words that accomplish at least one of these three things:

1. Edify
Edification is the act of building up. Edification builds up a person’s heart. Its root word goes on to explain ever more: “the act of one who promotes another’s growth.”

2. Exhort and Encourage
Exhortation is to call to one’s side. Exhortation tells us we are not walking alone. Exhortation helps others to rise up so they can find their place and potential. To encourage is to inspire and cheer on.

3. Comfort
Comfort implies closeness, calming, and consoling. Comfort relieves pain and provides relief.

If you learn how to speak from these three motives, you will truly begin to value not only your own life but also the lives of those who hear your words.

Richard Martinez
Intl. Transformation Expert

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THE ROOTS OF OUR PERSONAL PROBLEMS

Life is not always fair. It’s often filled with real and perceived injustices which hurt all of us. The pain we struggle with everyday pours from a range of experiences such as body-image, poor health, child abuse, or racial prejudice, just to name a few. The harsh reality of life is that in some way or another, every one of us will go through some profound pain at least once in our lives. Take the time to listen and you will discover that each person has a story about wrestling with spiritual, mental, emotional, physical or sexual trauma.

The irony of it all is that when we get hurt, we end up hurting others as well through real or perceived injustices. This vicious cycle compels us to develop strongholds. A stronghold is a state of emotion that manifests as unhealed internal pain. Strongholds come about when we develop social defense mechanisms to protect ourselves from being hurt again. These strongholds exist to protect ourselves from pain, yet it also hinders us from receiving the love and truth that we want and need to heal.

Anger, for example, is often used as a defense mechanism to try and hurt the other person before getting hurt. Other ways to deal with pain are more self-destructive, like gluttony, substance abuse and drunkenness. These are just a few methods people use to numb their pain. They are compensations we use to keep ourselves from hurting.

Examples of Defense Mechanisms:
Anger, doubt, unbelief, hatred, unforgiveness, bitterness, resentment, guilt, shame, condemnation, self-hatred, unhealthy passions, envy, jealousy, pride, selfishness, gluttony, drunkenness or substance abuse.

How we deal with the injustice and abuse in our lives is vitally important. Whether we react and become defensive or we learn to respond with forgiveness and healing informs the relationships we establish with others.

We can either choose to become a victim or a victor because how we deal with these emotions will determine what kind of life we will experience.

Richard Martinez
Intl. Transformation Expert

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4 QUESTIONS TO HELP FIGURE OUT IF YOU GET ENOUGH REST

We live in a 24/7, on-demand world. It doesn’t matter where we are, or what time of day it is, on some level every one of us spends the majority of our time locked and loaded. Always ready to answer that call or respond to that text. Always chasing that deadline or squeezing in an extra hour of work. If we aren’t scrolling and typing, we’re preparing and commuting. Working hard and playing even harder at the expense of one of the most essential human needs of all – rest.

If it keeps feeling tougher and tougher to roll out of bed every morning and take on the day, chances are you aren’t getting enough rest. Getting good rest, especially by way of sleep, is an indispensable part of human physiology. The reason behind this is straightforward. If our bodily systems function in a constant cycle of activity, fatigue sets in and increases the likelihood of breakdown and disorders. For instance, a fatigued immune system can’t fight against infection. Fatigued joints and muscles can’t support physical exertion. Expecting to thrive while neglecting rest is tantamount to driving a car at full-speed with the check-engine light on. Ignoring the signs only spells doom. If you need some help figuring out whether or not you’re getting enough rest, here are a few quick questions to ask yourself:

  • Did I Spend any Downtime with My Friends and Loved Ones Today?

There’s an ancient Turkish proverb that puts it quite succinctly, “no road is long with good company.” Spending quality time with people who accept and love you is one of the most therapeutic ways to decompress in life. This is because socializing creates conversation, and conversation can either give people the opportunity to vent, or to focus on more pleasant elements of life without fixation on stress.

  • Did I Sleep Late Yesterday?

If the answer to this question is ever a “Yes,” don’t let another day go by without making up for any lost sleep. Functioning on a sleep-deficit not only accelerates fatigue, it reduces alertness and concentration. Even though it may feel counterintuitive, make an effort to fight the urges you may have to sacrifice sleep for the sake of work or entertainment. A good night’s sleep helps the body recuperate from daily trauma which can build up to serious health issues in the absence of consistent quality sleep.

  • How heavy was My Supper?

One of the most important components of good health is a balanced diet. People typically assume this means consuming a variety of nutrients. However, portion-control also plays an important role when it comes to health and rest. One unfortunate outcome of living on a busy schedule is consumption of skewed portions throughout the day. People have developed a habit of eating little to no food during the day, then binging on huge meals during their free time at night. Sleeping with a heavy stomach actually disrupts digestion thereby causing restless sleep.

  • What’s the Last Thing I Thought About?

As our bodies wind down towards the end of a long day, it’s equally important to ensure that our minds relax as well. People like to assume that watching TV or catching up on social media helps us unwind, but the truth is that such leisure activities stimulate our minds rather than distract them. A brief moment to meditate in silence without any visual interruptions helps prepare the entire body for sound sleep. Rest should be treated as an immersive experience that includes the mind as well, not just our physical bodies.
Good rest isn’t just about getting sleep. It’s about spending time disengaged from activities and responsibilities that typically demand our full concentration and effort. Allowing oneself to permanently exist in a state of activity and contemplation doesn’t just produce a physical drain, it imposes an unseen emotional toll that is degenerative over time. The reason why sleep and relaxation often feel good is because they actually are good for the body. Check out more of RISE Programs’ Blogs for helpful health and wellness advice. Remember to spread the word by sharing this post.

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9 WAYS TO MAINTAIN YOUR PERSONAL POWER

This is not a, “TO Do” List, rather it’s a series of healthy suggestions filled with helpful truths and principles to help you gain and keep your freedom, peace and power as you remain productive.

1.-Remember and review your victories (big and small) by speaking them out loud to yourself with much gratitude and thankfulness. You are victorious, talk like it!

2.-Meet each new day trusting that you will make right choices at the right time. Don’t let your emotions deceive you.

3.-Expect continuous and increasing growth where you need it. Move forward without even a glance over your shoulder to what is now the past unless it’s to celebrate victories.  

4.-Avoid deliberate negative thinking, speaking and actions.

5.-Take time, or make time, to read & learn every day. Seek to keep advancing yourself in every area by learning and applying what you learned. .

6.-Beware of thinking that you can make it alone. It’s good to have people who love and support you and will tell you the truth.

7.-Dissolve dysfunctional relationships and choose positive, clean living friends. Although we can’t control everything that happens, we can choose to surround ourselves with good people and healthy things.

8.-Remember to stand firm against criticism, negativity, grieving over the past. Your thoughts will determine your life so think healthy.

9.-Choose to live in thankfulness, gratitude and appreciation. These healthy attitudes will help keep you grounded and renewed.

Richard Martinez

Transformation Expert

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THE PAIN OF LOVE

Why do we need to experience pain if we are truly going to love and be loved?

Trust is that love and pain are born in the same place. Love is birthed in a “womb” and this womb is a place of vulnerability and intimacy. Vulnerability causes us to be susceptible to different levels of pain. This is why one must come to a personal conclusion if love is worth the risk. There is a, “counting the cost” involved in love but this counting the cost is in the very nature of love itself.

When you are willing to make yourself vulnerable to someone you are essentially communicating to him or her that you are willing to give them your heart. Your heart is valuable to you therefore this shows your value for them. It shows that you trust and value them enough to have a level of intimacy or in-to-me-u-see. This in turn causes them to feel valued, trusted, respected, heard, understood or in one word, Loved.

Understand this, love is as food and water, without it we die (internally). I encourage you to “count the cost”, to love and to become easy to be loved. Let people in. In-to-me-u-see. This is where the love is born.

Then comes the issue of getting hurt. Since our hearts are valuable shouldn’t we guard them? It’s out of your heart that springs forth the issues of life therefore yes you must learn to guard your heart. What does it look like to guard your heart in a healthy way? I say, “healthy way” because many guard their hearts with defense mechanisms such as, anger. Anger says, “I’ll hurt you before you hurt me”. It’s a defense mechanism. Defense mechanisms hinder love and truth from entering into our hearts (Closing up & avoiding things can be another defense mechanism that’s robs us from truth and love).

So what does the “healthy” way look like? It looks like you being clear on who you are & who you are not (true humility). It is you knowing your identity and your value. Only than can you be confident about letting people into your heart space. Why? First, because you know who you are therefore can affectively give yourself to another and be able to receive the love in return. And secondly, because you value yourself therefore would not allow someone to abuse you in any way.

Therefore the, “healthy way” has nothing to do with what people are doing or not doing. It has to do with your own personal internal reality. When you have a peace and confidence within it will manifest itself outwardly too. We guard our hearts not through defense mechanisms but rather through the confidence and freedom we have within through knowing our true identity and value. With it comes to relationships we must be bold as a lion & yet gentle as a dove. Be bold because of the risk of getting hurt & gently because the opportunity to love and be loved.

Richard Martinez

Transformation Expert

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3 FOOLPROOF TIPS ON HOW TO USE SOCIAL MEDIA SENSIBLY

Once upon a time, using social media was a simple routine. Most people only ever really had to think about Myspace and Facebook. It took all of 10 minutes to log in, check up on both, and happily carry on with the rest of your day. Slowly but surely though, staying on top of social media accounts has turned into a ridiculous circus. Everyone’s caught up in a maze of hashtags, filters, news feeds, trending topics, livestreams, challenges, reblogs and whatever new rituals each social network has brewing in the works. It’s gotten to the point that social media feels less like interacting, and more like filing information for public consumption.

Even though using social media has become an overwhelming experience for many, abandoning it altogether isn’t exactly the answer to resolving the mess. Social media has evolved into an indispensable part of life that informs the majority of how people communicate today. This means that giving up on social media would only result in a situation of unnecessary isolation. Rather than throwing in the towel, making a few painless adjustments to how you use social media can help reign in the confusion and actually lead to meaningful connection with others on these networks. Here are a few tips on sensible ways to gain control of social media:

1.Stop trying to be a jack of all trades

It’s a natural instinct for people to try and stay current with new trends. As social media multiplies and progresses, this has created a scenario in which people constantly subscribe to new networks even though it’s inevitable to lose track of them all. Rather than spreading yourself thin, choose to focus on a small selection of sites that are actually relevant to your social needs. Focusing on three or four networks makes it easier to manage the quality of activity happening on each account.

2. Pick networks that are compatible with your lifestyle.

Just because Facebook has 1 Billion users doesn’t mean you have to be one of them. Just because 500 million tweets are published on twitter every day doesn’t mean your voice has to chime in on all that traffic. Social networks are like outfits. It’s a harsh truth but not everyone is meant to pull off certain looks. The best way to get memorable experiences out of social media is to choose formats that match how you like to express yourself. If taking photographs appeals to you more than conversation, an image-based site like Instagram or Flickr would be more suited to your needs. If you’re the type of person who has a lot to say but not much to show, choosing a blogging platform like tumblr or Reddit would provide more fulfilling encounters. If filming sounds more fun, vlogging on YouTube would certainly be more rewarding than struggling with other sites. The more naturally self-expression happens, the more authentically you’ll be able to present yourself to the world.

3.Keep it simple.

Diving into social media as if it’s life and death is a recipe for disaster. Social media should complement the real-world relationships we form with people – not replace them. Social media should flavor how we relate to others rather than entirely define our connections. Taking social media too seriously is a slippery slope to oversharing and overexposure. It compels people to live life constantly seeking approval from others. Even worse, taking social media too seriously eliminates the filter of decency that would otherwise stop us from needlessly expressing controversial and inappropriate views.

If keeping track of your social media starts to feel more like work than a pastime, it’s probably a sign that you should reevaluate whether you are trying to do too much. Focusing on the networks that make it easy to express yourself is usually the best way to eliminate the stress of having to keep up with the ever-changing chore of being logged in. A decision to simplify your social media, is a decision to streamline your life. Check out RISE Programs’ Blogs for more helpful advice, and remember to share this post with your friends and family.

Author: Daniel Otianga

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THE BENEFITS OF LOVE FOR YOUR HEALTH

Well-developed individuals will learn how meet their needs for love, intimacy, nurture, and fellowship through functional loving relationships. Life evolves around people therefore the more skilled we are in interpersonal skills the more successful and happy we will be. Whether in family life, personal life, professional life, school life, church life and whatever other type of life interpersonal skills is essential yet most people are very ill equipped to manage themselves well let alone relationships well.

So much of what we consider today as nutrition is really just a secondary source of our life source and healthy energy. Love is one of the most if not the most important things for our health and happiness. When most think about health they think, “Diet” & “Exercise” right? When most people think of happiness they think of, “Family, passions, comfort & pleasure”. What most don’t realize is that both are powerful ingredients to our personal health and happiness.

This love isn’t just a love between two people it’s a love between a person and their life. It’s having a sense of thankfulness and gratitude towards life and the people in it. Love feeds us, yet doesn’t come on a plate. We can gain healthy sources of love in things such as a meaningful spiritual practice, a passionate and inspiring career, regular physical activity and loving relationships that feed your soul and your passion for living and enjoying your life.

Richard Martinez

Transformation Expert

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