Books

Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff…And It’s All Small Stuff

Author: Richard Carlson, PH.D

I really like about this book is how easy it is to read. Although Dr. Carlson is a PhD, he doesn’t write in such a way to sound more scholarly but rather very practical. The book gives simple ways to keep the little things from overtaking our lives and each chapter is no more than three pages at the most. Because it’s small and has many pearls of wisdom I recommendation is to keep this book in your car, by your toilet, at work in your drawer, or in your bag. You can easily pull it out when you need a few minutes to recharge and get your mind right.

There are hundreds of tips but here are ten to give you an idea.

  1. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
  2. Let go the idea that gentle, relaxed people can’t be super achievers.
  3. Don’t interrupt others or finish their sentences.
  4. Learn to live in the present moment.
  5. Become a better listener.
  6. Choose your battles wisely.
  7. Remember that everything has God’s fingerprints on it.
  8. Practice ignoring your negative thoughts.
  9. Take up Yoga.
  10. Mind your own business.

This inspiring book tells us literally NOT TO SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF and to stop the things that slow our progress in attaining a life free from stress.

Richard Martinez

Transformation Expert

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The Tools

Author: Phil Stutz & Barry Michels

This was an interesting read. I found it to be a good perspective-changer on dealing with pain and problems. Aside from some of the spiritual principles expressed in the book, I really enjoyed it and thought it was a worthwhile book overall.

Jungian psychology being a practical approach, Ellis’ Rational Emotive adds a Behavioral Therapy perspective to the subject matter. Psychiatrist Phil Stutz and Psychotherapist Barry Michels help clients suffering from depression, anxiety, insecurities, past hurt or difficult problems find innovative and spiritual solutions to their struggles. Considering the fact that all of this expertise is combined in the book, it starts to become clear why it provides some great change of perspective on self-discovery. The authors combined positive thinking, positive actions, and spirituality into their formula. What I really like is how they communicate that the foundation for its success is ultimately in the hands of the clients. The key is in their own willingness, perseverance, determination and dedication to apply these principles every time and in every area of their lives. I loved reading this part because that is a core belief we have at RISE Programs. We believe that the power is within you!

The authors provide the problems and tools to overcome these summarized problems:

Problems

  1. Moving Away or Avoiding Pain
  2. Unrealistic and Untrue Negative Belief Systems
  3. Insecurities based on Assumptions
  4. Negative Thinking

Tools

  1. Reversal of Desire
  2. Active Love
  3. Inner Authority
  4. The Grateful Flow
  5. Jeopardy

Richard Martinez

Trasformation Expert

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The Warrior Within

Author: John Little

I really enjoy this read.  I loved all the things I read in each chapter, it was like a new life lesson each day and stimulated your soul and spirit in a positive way. People only think of Bruce Lee as a great martial artist but he was also a great thinker. His true passion was philosophy but he chose to express it through martial arts. I this he was an amazing gifted man who learned to be himself in all that he did. To just BE is to be FREE.

The main concept in the book is to ‘be yourself’. It is about easing up, and not adding complication to things that should occur naturally, such as in breathing. We each have our own answers inside ourselves and the power to heal and be strong is all within. That is really what it is all about and being able to connect with your thoughts and not hide from them. We are all unique and beautifully made and are filled with great potential. What made him amazing to me is that he lived what he spoke and spoke what he lived, Bruce lee was deep but also lived it with action, discipline and lots of training.

My favorite part about the book was in accepting yourself. If you accept yourself, then you won’t worry about what other people will think of you, or what to do here and there.

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His Needs Her Needs

Author: Willard F. Harley, Jr.

Many times in my work I not only coach and educate, but I also counsel.  For years I have counseled married couples who are at times dealing with deep-rooted problems, or at other times, simply trying to refresh their relationships. Relationships can be very difficult and painful if we don’t know how to build and maintain sustainable connection. I myself am always reading and learning about different things that will help my own interpersonal relationships and those of my clients. This book His Needs, Her Needs: How to Build an Affair-Proof Marriage is an interesting read. It gives stark insight into where people can lack in relationships and how we set ourselves up for destruction.

This book gets straight to the point. Although the book illustrates some concepts that aren’t aligned with my beliefs, I can appreciate so much of it. Harley helps his readers understand how unmet needs can contribute to spouses becoming unfaithful to each other, he offers a chapter on a concept he terms “Love Bank.” To Harley, each spouse has an internal bank that deposits or withdraws love units based on the emotional response offered or withheld by their partner in a relationship. It’s a good visual learning-aid to use the concept of “Love Banks”.

The bulk of the book addressed five emotional and physical needs, which Harley has identified as being applicable to couples. He has divided them into the needs of females and males – alternating between the genders in the book. The areas of emotional need for the female in the marriage are identified as affection, intimate conversation, financial support, family commitment, honesty and openness. For the man, critical emotional needs are defined as sexual fulfillment, recreational companionship, physical attractiveness, domestic support, and admiration.

This book has good, strong, content and I would recommend it to anyone who is or will be in a relationship.

Richard Martinez

Transformation Expert

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Who Switched Off My Brain?

Author: Dr. Caroline Leaf

This is a very easy read and very powerful. Everyone should take a little bit a time (because it’s not a big book) and read it. It gives easy to understand explanations and illustrations of how the mind and emotions sends messages to the brain. Also the practical activities to reinforce concepts can be applied on a daily basis and does not take up a lot of time.

Dr. Leaf states that researchers say that 87% of the illnesses that plague us today are a direct result of our thought life. Once you read what she has to say on how your brain works and what happens to your body when we think negative thoughts, you can’t wait to get to the last chapter and learn the steps to controlling your thinking.

I feel like Leaf offers a lot of solid ideas for learning how to change thoughts and control unhealthy emotions. Even if you don’t think you struggle with anxiety, ADHD, depression, etc., there isn’t anybody who couldn’t benefit from reading this book.

Richard Martinez
Transformation Expert

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Y Colorín Colorado Este Cuento Aún No Se Ha Acabado

Autor: ODIN DUPEYRON

Odin Dupeyron es un escritor mexicano que estudió actuación y después de haber soportado varios fracasos en su vida, aprendió a controlar sus miedos y enfrentar la vida con lo que se le presentara en cualquier momento. Es así como nace la necesidad de explicar todo lo que vivió, sufrió y experimentó en una forma divertida por medio de un cuento. El autor nos habla  de una historia que no trata más que de la vida, de los miedos escondidos que nos paralizan y no nos dejan mover, pero sobre todo del deseo infinito de ser libres.

En este libro puedes encontrar cómo puede uno llegar a conocerse a sí mismo y no hay nada mejor que buscando en el pasado, sobre todo esos momentos obscuros que nos marcaron para toda la vida, porque solo así podremos saber  de verdad quiénes somos, de dónde venimos pero sobre todo a dónde vamos.

De una manera muy peculiar nos pone el ejemplo tan sencillo de explicarnos que todo lo que empieza acaba y termina y que así sucesivamente otro nuevo capítulo en nuestra vida vuelve a empezar. Y lo mejor es que en cada comenzar tenemos nuevas oportunidades, nuevas posibilidades que hacen más enriquecedora nuestra vida. Definitivamente es un libro que puedo recomendarte en esos momentos en donde piensas que tus problemas ya no tienen solución, que te sientes atrapado y no encuentras de verdad una salida. Date una oportunidad, de ver tus problemas con otra cara para que puedas sacudirte los miedos y ser feliz.

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First Things First

Author: Stephen R. Covey, A. Roger Merrill, Rebecca R. Merrill

This was another helpful book from the pen of Stephen Covey. It was a little slow for me at first but there are some great practical tips in here is manage time. I enjoyed the “Time Management Matrix” Tool:

  1. Important and Urgent

– Crises

– Pressing Problems

– Deadline- Driven projects, meetings, preparations

  1. Important, Not Urgent

– Preparation

– Preventions

– Values clarification

– Planning

– Relationship building

– True re-creation

– Empowerment

  1. Urgent, Not Important

– Interruptions, some phone calls

– Some email, some reports

– Some meetings

– Many proximate, pressing matters

– Many popular activities

  1. Not Urgent, Not Important

– Trivia, busywork

– Some phone calls

– Time wasters

– “Escape” activities

– Irrelevant mail

– Excessive TV

Simply put, most people spend far too much time in quadrants 3 & 4. We also spend too much time in quadrant 1, not that those issues are unimportant, but because we don’t manage our priorities well. The goal is to gradually focus more and more of our time and energy in quadrant 2, thus reducing the amount of energy necessarily directed to quadrant 1.

There are some great insights in here and recommend this book.

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Richard Martinez

Transformation Expert/Coach

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